Big Dark Sky

communion & intimacy in the unknown

I dreamed of seeing the milky way incredibly vivid and clear last night. I was driving in the dream and the person next to me and I realized we were seeing it so clearly because our lights were off. The realization made us laugh ourselves to tears, the awe was overwhelming. What a perfect dream to describe our Sun crossing the South Node and being eclipsed by the Moon.

There is importance to honing our night vision, to finding clarity or faith within darkness, obscurity, and the unknown. When we have eyes to see in these places is when the journey really begins.

This solar eclipse on Oct 2, a Libra new moon—the dark moon—is exactly conjunct Black Moon Lilith. This is not actually a physical body in the sky but describes the farthest point of the moon’s orbit from earth, the lunar apogee point, where the moon appears darkest to us. So we have the moon about to obscure our Sun while it sits with the Black Moon, shadow side of the moon. Darkness abounds.

Venus rules over this eclipse from her current home in Scorpio, signaling another journey into the dark with what is taboo, our unconscious, the things we repress which are believed to be too shameful or vulnerable to risk sharing. Venus in Scorpio is next level intimacy when the wounds creating blocks to get there are allowed to be safely explored in relationship.

This eclipse points us toward relational trauma, the raw and painful parts of past relationships we wanted to forget, along with an undercurrent of past life and/or ancestral imprints which have created barriers within our relationships. With Mercury also here, themes around the voice and feeling safe to express ourselves—or safe to explore what that even means when we are in relationship—may be coming up as the moon obscures and reveals the sun.

The emphasis on safety within the dark, intimacy in the dark, and things that have happened under the cover of night which continue to haunt our subconscious mind are all present. And with Black Moon Lilith riding this eclipse, there is promise of new life, new perspective, new eyes to see all we were too scared to face or which caught us inside a stew of rage from the betrayals, violence, and pain of this earthly experience, denying us the opportunity for release and a return of peace within our system.

As the eclipse unfolds, Venus forms a beautiful water trine with Mars in Cancer and Saturn in Pisces. Both the masculine archetype (Mars), and the archetype for patriarchy, authority figures, the father etc (Saturn), are speaking from the intuitive, nurturing, enveloping, protective, passive, defending, oceanic, fluid/flowing parts of the zodiac. The conversation here is one of harmonious holding. If Venus, our feminine archetype, is open to and seeking intimacy through this process, she will certainly find it. Even in silent acknowledgement or the intuitive knowing we offer one another in passing through body language or eye contact. Opportunities exist here for getting on the same page, facing the past together, and deciding how we want to progress in a tangible and unified way. It is making me think of the powerful reframe within relationships where our conflicts don’t have to be me against you but us facing any problem as a team which serves our togetherness and what we are creating. May this configuration at the very least offer some heart felt action and relief to all those suffering under climate disaster and the evils of the military industrial complex.

This is our final eclipse in Libra while the South Node is present within this sign. It leaves us with a unique treasure, one we would only discover through darkness. Funny enough, in my dream this morning after our laugh the person with me began speaking of a famous baby who had died and how they found a gemstone in his poop.

What parts of our innocence and purity were made vulnerable and taken away too soon?

How is that loss/death and our ability to voice it with a trusted confidant an opportunity to uncover something precious? How does acknowledging the actual deaths of children to war, poverty, illness, birthing complications, natural disasters, etc offer the collective a reframing of our priorities? How does the archetype of Lilith show up raging and revenge filled when we try and understand leadership that will not support life the way we envision? And how do we hold complex archetypes like that of Lilith who was said to steal and kill babies?

All of these questions to me are contained within that South Node, the place of the past. In the dragon’s tail we can connect with the collective past, the entire history of civilization, ancestral ties, our own history within this one life, and all other lives we may have lived. Every transformation of Lilith exists here from the victim seeking her revenge, to the demon who gives Eve the apple, the sexually liberated feminine, the succubus who steals sperm from men in the night, and the equal partner to Adam before being cast out. The way her story—or any other myth for that matter—has been used or abused is not really the point, it’s more about the truths it reveals about our past and present.

I think it’s actually very special that Mercury is also present with this eclipse to offer their skills as a psychopomp or guide between worlds. We need a guide to traverse the darkness within the South Node. With Mercury being combust—made invisible under the rays of the Sun—it is more like a hand reaching out in the dark, trying to connect us with the knowledge within that guides our moral compass. Because this is all happening within the sign of Libra, our attention is directed toward justice, fairness, finding equilibrium within our own experience and letting that express within all our partnerships in life.

When we go to the darkest places within our psyche, who do we allow the privilege of communion?

When we are asking the deeper questions about justice within our own life and in the larger world that confuse, horrify, trigger, enrage, and send us into shame—who is embracing us?

You cannot do or say the wrong thing with the right person. May this eclipse make it clear who is safe in our life to be unsure, frightened, and ashamed with. There are so many ways to be in partnership. This could mean you are learning to be the compassionate non-judgmental witness to your own process. It could signal dropping our guard toward ancestors who have been through it and want to hold us from the other side.

Libra energy can become tripped up by overly focusing on how others are viewing them. With Venus in Scorpio, this is the reminder that not everyone’s opinions, beliefs, responses, ways of handling life etc are worth us being concerned over.

Partnership is not about forced loyalty or a need to believe or feel the exact same, but rather prioritizing how we make our togetherness safe for honesty. Honesty is not blunt pessimism under the guise of “just being ‘real’” or spewing “harsh truths” either. Let’s be clear here, honesty doesn’t mean being cruel, closed off, or forcing our truth upon others. It can be messy to find our way through that but truly aligned relationships can heal our lives in a way that it extends this healing all the way out across space and time. A few experiences of this level of intimacy could change the course of a life and soul forever.

We are all walking our own path. Let us be reminded how much of a true miracle it is to find those who meet and walk with us there no matter how long we are in stride together.

This eclipse season began with a Pisces full moon lunar eclipse as the nodes have been preparing to shift from Aries/Libra into Pisces/Virgo in January of 2025. The alignment of this particular eclipse had the Moon in Pisces conjunct both Neptune and the North Node (still in Aries). Currently, Neptune is sextile Uranus and Pluto who are forming a trine to one another. With the nodes coming closer into conjunction with Neptune, this is starting to form the aspect in astrology called a kite. For the first eclipse we had the Sun acting as the base of the kite configuration.

A kite aspect is when there are two planets or points opposite one another and two more forming a sextile and trine to this opposition. See the image below of what this looked like on our last lunar eclipse. You can get a feel by looking at this image how it appears like an actual kite we might see flying in the sky. When we think about what it feels like to fly a kite and all it evokes for us, those same things can be applied to the way the planets or points in the sky are communicating with one another.

Currently, Pluto, Neptune, and Uranus have all just come into this configuration with the South Node serving as the base of the kite. If we think about the technical part of flying a kite, one generally holds a spool of string connected in four places, the center of the cross, the two sides, and the tip of the kite. If you want to change direction you pull toward one side to dive and dip with the wind. Stunt kites have two spools so you can do this with both hands much more efficiently like an actual steering wheel. In this case, Pluto—our planet of evolution, shadow material, collective unconscious, destruction, war, regeneration—is in one hand, while Uranus—the planet that ushers us into liberation, rebellion, freedom at any cost, innovation, breaking boundaries—is in the other. These two form our collective steering wheel as it were for the next 6 years. And they are both following Neptune, their lighthouse, in this process.

I so deeply value approaching astrology through these slower cycles which guide us all. Where these planets are falling by transit in our own birth chart is highly indicating where our work is at this time. Are we going through a death process with Pluto crossing one of our planets? Is our learning how to make art from ash part of our contribution? Is Uranus transiting a point in our chart, creating a complete radical overhaul in our life to uncover something we never imagined would be our path? Or are we sitting with Neptune and discovering what true healing means, dissolving into the boundless ocean of oneness and becoming that pure light of consciousness for others to tune themselves toward? If you have planets in late Virgo or early Libra, expect to be pulled along for the ride of your life as the kite lifts off the ground and whatever planet is there takes flight somewhere completely unexpected for better or worse, it’s all about the perspective here.

I could go on and on about this configuration and will probably do a whole separate post about it. But for now, through this eclipse, it is worth asking ourselves: how is this darkness birthing me into the collective story that is just beginning to unfold? While Pluto and Neptune are nearing the end of their 100 year sextile, Uranus just joined via sextile to Neptune and trine to Pluto this July. They will all travel together until June of 2030.

What a gift it is to walk upon this earth with a constant questioning of existence like a raging storm. It is best to fly a kite on a windy day so maybe that is all part of the experience. There is a way to find our equilibrium here too and this is what I envision all those truly seeking will find through this eclipse.

In gratitude and awe,

Evan

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Thank you again everyone for spending this time with me today. I wish you all a beautiful eclipse and am sending comfort toward all those who are literally in the dark right now. It has been devastating to see my old community of Swannanoa & Asheville along with surrounding areas—so so many affected it’s heart breaking—be facing such massive destruction from hurricane Helene. May all those affected by natural or man-made disaster, violence, and loss, find light through the open hearts and arms of those who walk with us through this life.

xo

Evan